What should be the Christian's attitude towards gay marriage?
Perhaps nothing is more infuriating to me around the LGBT "rights" conversation than the subject of "gay marriage." Much has been said and written about this issue, therefore I am not going to offer a lengthy dissertation here. I view this issue as a simple one, and my logic is as follows:
- GOD calls homosexuality sin and, as with all types of sin, GOD hates homosexuality and those who insist on practicing it.
- While GOD views homosexuality with extreme disdain, He views (heterosexual) marriage as inherently holy and "good," for He gave it to Adam and Eve as a blessing in the beginning (see Gen. 2:18-25).
- Since marriage is a holy union with divine origin, its definition is of divine origin as well—one man, one woman. While societies and governments may attempt to redefine the word "marriage" to include homosexual unions or extended male/female co-habitations without the intent to be married, the GOD-given concept of biblical marriage is unalterable. This would be like us trying to redefine the word "duck" to now be called "elephant." We can call ducks "elephants" for the rest of our days, but our redefinition does absolutely nothing to alter the nature and makeup of the creature that is a duck. The same is true of the GOD-given concept of marriage.
- Therefore, any civilly-recognized gay marriage would never equate to "what God has joined together" (see Matt. 19:6; Mark 10:9)—for GOD would never bless in union that which He inherently abhors. In other words, whereas a government may recognize Adam and Steve as "married," GOD does not—and therefore neither should Christians, other than for purposes of our conversations with people of the world.
- As a result, in my assessment, there is no need for the church to develop (or support the development of) any spiritual concept recognizing "gay divorce" (other than what the government requires since it acknowledges 'gay marriage,' that is) because in the eyes of GOD, there was never a marriage. However, the church absolutely needs to be prepared to stand firm in requiring and assisting with the repentance of those formerly involved in a civilly-recognized "gay marriage."
- Lastly, and most importantly, there is absolutely no reason why any Christian should support the civil progression and adoption of "gay marriage." Why should a body part of the body of Jesus embrace that which the brain (i.e., the head, Jesus) is repulsed by? It makes no sense. That would be like our brain telling us to avoid a hot fire, but our foot decides all on its own to walk us into the blaze. Physical bodies don't function that way and neither does Jesus' spiritual body.
Paul instructed the Christians in Rome to be careful how they lived, saying:
12 Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. 2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
(Rom. 12:1-2 NIV)
As Christians, our life should look different than the world. We don't bend to the social norms around us which change with time. Instead, we live a holy life guided by the principles of Scripture.
What should a homosexual do to be pleasing to GOD?
Someone asks, "What does a homosexual need to do to be pleasing to GOD?"
Well, what must any sinner do to please GOD?
Stop committing the sin of homosexuality.
Pray for help.
Come to Jesus so He can take that sin and wash you clean.
If you are tempted by homosexual urges, find a Christian friend who you can trust and share with them your struggle. Ask them to pray with you.
Ask them to hold you accountable and periodically ask you how you're doing.
GOD's will is for us to overcome our temptations, and He knows we can't do it alone, that we need help.